Unexpected Prayers

God, Life and Happiness, Religion

Happy Monday. Here’s to another week filled with demeaning political posts, lies and downright depressing news. Are you as sick of it as I am?

A few days ago, I posted this meme on Facebook:

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Courtesy of Audrey Loves Paris

I got a lot of responses and I’ve seen it reposted numerous times. I think almost everyone is tired of election season. I personally just want it to be over. It’s hard to look at the news or any online… anything, because so many people are backbiting each other about the candidates. I’ve seen some pretty ugly banter going back and forth on friend’s feeds. It’s sad.

But then I received an email from one of my favorite authors that I edit for. She’s working on a devotional book and I cannot wait until it’s done. But not in the same way I’ll be glad for the election to be over. I’m excited for everyone to read her book when it’s finished! She had opened up herself in this devotional (and I’ve pushed her to do so). She connects with the Lord in such an open and honest way. She is showing what it’s like to be transparent – we’re not perfect, but God loves us anyway. I think so many people will benefit from her words.

Why do I think this?

Because I’m already benefiting from her words. You see, she writes me emails now and again to let me know her progress. We work in 3-4 chapter segments at a time and she keeps me updated as to when she’ll give me the next installment. Her emails are funny, heartwarming and sincere. The best bonus: She ends each with a beautiful prayer for me.

Here are some she’s recently sent to me:

May God bind any writer’s block you may be experiencing in finishing your YA Novel — so that His anointing will be poured out to you, in you, and on your writing, and the work of your hands. (Remember that woman who washed Jesus’ feet and used her hair to wipe them dry? Well, that’s YOU, too!)

May He refresh your mind, body, and spirit.
May He whisper in your ear those things you need to hear.
May He give you rest from any weariness.
May His peace be lavishly poured out upon you, in, and through you.

Isn’t she sweet? Here’s another one:

May the Lord continue to rejoice over you with singing and dancing. 
May He show you even more ways of His love for you. 
May He continue to help you finish your YA novel.
Of course, may He fill you with His hope which does not disappoint. 
May your sleep be sweet, with a loving refreshment from the Holy Spirit. 

I mean, wouldn’t you love to just receive this kind of love in your inbox every day? I’m so blessed to have found her as a client and I feel equally blessed by her prayers for me. I always read them out loud to my husband, too, so he can experience the kind of blessing that she is for him through me. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to feel this much love for everyone on a daily basis? Wouldn’t it feel good to simply want good things for other people instead of fighting about which candidate is the lesser of two evils?

Let’s keep this love fest going. Let my favorite client be an example to us all. I encourage you to send a written prayer email or note to someone today. I bet if we all did this it would go a long way to helping our country to heal and grow in love with one another.

This week (my own – not up to par with my client’s yet, but I’m trying):

May the Lord shine His face upon you in every situation.
May He fill your heart with his presence.
May you go joyfully to Him in pray for all things.
And may your days be forever blessed by the knowledge that is our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

God bless and have a great week!

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Mini Post Monday

Life and Happiness

Finding Love

Last week, a friend of mine got engaged. It was the sweetest thing I’ve seen in awhile (via Facebook since he lives in Texas!) – he thought it out so lovingly. It’ll be his second wedding, but, I think, his first real marriage. It made me think back to when John and I were dating. We’d both been hurt pretty badly previously and it’s sometimes hard to overcome those hurts in a new relationship. But sometimes it helps to point you in the right direction. I know it did for me and my hubby, I hope it will for my friend, too. My hubs recently started doctorate schooling. It was a big step and one that we agonized over. Would our marriage hold fast? Would we be able to still connect despite the hours of studying he’d need to do? Guess what? He actually needs my help with his papers! I edit for him and it’s caused us to actually grow a little closer together. Isn’t it amazing what God can do? I know he’ll do it for my friend and his new wife, too. I’m praying for them every day.

Finding Inspiration

If you read my last post, you know I’ve been struggling a bit with writing. Sometimes it just happens, I guess. I have a lot of writer friends and they all go through these seasons, but it’s hard to be with those other writing friends when your own words just won’t flow. I’m so frustrated about my work in progress that it’s causing me some anxiety, but my friends have been so supportive and haven’t chided me for not writing or scolded me to “just do it.” I appreciate their love and support. One friend, whom I admire in her writing skills, took a long break off from writing a novel she’d been working on NON-STOP for the last several years. She finally came back to it and is just about to finish it. She gives me hope that I, too, will find that muse again soon. I’m off to another writing conference this week so I hope that the infusion of creative people around me will inspire me to keep writing. Prayers appreciated.

Finding Time for Me

I realized recently that I give a lot of time to others, but can’t seem to have any time for myself. Most days I don’t even take out my Bible to connect with the Lord. I think it’s one of the reasons I’m stuck on my novel. I simply don’t let my mind rest enough to create. In the process, I’m always thinking about editing someone else’s stuff, making dinner, taking out the dog, cleaning the house, returning that email or meeting up a friend who wants to chat for lunch. I like doing all those things, but when I sit down to write I get crickets! Chirp CHIRP! I’m too focused on my to-do list than my creative list. I’ve taken a bit more time to simply BE with myself (phone turned off) and I’m enjoying runs and walks in the morning with some Christian music every day. I pray that as I reconnect to myself, I’ll find that inner inspiration to finish my novel. I’m not far from the end… and I think it’s a good work… I just need that boost to finish it!

This week, I hope you find whatever it is you’re searching for. May God be a blessing onto your life and may you seek Him in all things.

 

My Husband Will Hate This Post

Life and Happiness

So here is a post my husband will probably hate. Today is our anniversary and I could not possibly write about anything else other than our love and marriage. I’m sure many of you that know us personally get sick of our happiness, maybe even jealous at times. But let me reassure you – we fight and argue, too. Today is not going to be that day though. Today is a day to celebrate seven married years to my best friend. Here is a inside look into what makes us… us.

From day one, we’ve email each other up to 15 times a day. When we first met, we lived several hundred miles apart and the most cost effective way to communicate was by email.

John’s first email to me:

Sue,

Hey there – great to hear from you. And no problem with the email – Aunt Dawn asked, and I said fine, fine – so it’s good to see you took her up on it. :o)

It was very nice meeting you, too. And I’m not just saying that to be polite – it really was interesting, and you’re really funny and intelligent (two things I find so many people lack these days.) It was definitely nice to have someone to trade innuendos with – although the fact that we were on the same wavelength most of the time was… um… interesting. :o)

It started from there. We were, and still mostly are, on the same wavelength. From day one, we finished each other’s sentences. It was… freaky.

We just couldn’t seem to stop with the emails either. But he did ask a lot of questions at the beginning. Trying to get to know me and all that jazz. After one particularly long set of questions, I lambasted him back with my own and got this in response:

OK, OK, I get the point… no more Guantanamo Bay style inquisition… otherwise we won’t have anything to talk about when we meet and, Lord, wouldn’t that be awkward! 

I knew from “Guantanamo Bay” that he was both funny and smart – two things I wanted in a guy.

When John moved to PA, we kept up the email habit and still do it now – even though we live together and chat constantly. Now we only email about 4 times back and forth each day, but I look forward to each one, especially the first one in the morning. It always starts my day off on a good note. John makes a point to say little things to make me feel special – like his salutations every day: Beloved, My love, Beloved Sue, and, sometimes, Hey Beautiful.

I truly think our email habit has strengthened our marriage. We keep in constant contact, which, to some, might be too much, but for me – it’s everything. We have learned that there are some things not suitable for email – some concerns have to be discussed in person – but overall we talk about it all. Some things are romantic and some, like this, are not.

Yes, you can use everything else in the upstairs bathroom – just not the toilet. The water is off to the toilet only. I believe I know the solution – it is a leaking seal between the tank and bowl. I will stop at Home Depot after the bank run at lunch and pick up the seal replacement kit. I will then come home after work and replace it. Hopefully shouldn’t take too long. 

Romantic, don’t you think? (See, it isn’t all fairy tales, kittens, and rainbows.)

So on this, our 7th Wedding Anniversary, I want to say to my beloved: Your words make me smile, always, and I love you. Happy Anniversary baby.

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Valentine’s Day Reflections – Repost

Life and Happiness

As Valentine’s Day quickly approaches I found this post I wrote a few years ago and thought it still fit today so… here goes.

Over the past 10+ (This original post was almost two years ago…it’s crazy to me that my husband and I have been together almost 10 years!) years I’ve been asked a number of times how John and I met. I even wrote a story about it for Chicken Soup for the Soul. I always love to retell the story because it’s such a completely unbelievable one really.

Here’s why:

We lived in two different states.

We were from two different worlds.

Our meeting was completely by “chance.”

He never envisioned living where I live – which is his father’s hometown.

And I tell this tale often, with various details and with a smile on my face. Because I know the real reason how we met.

But, you see, my answer to “How did you two meet?” shouldn’t be this long drawn out detail of the timeline of events, but the answer should be:

GOD.

You see, I don’t believe in coincidence.

I had a part-time job at a library and I started to get discontented with it. No reasons really. But when I quit I realized I still needed a second job, so I got one at a local retail place. That’s where I met John’s aunt. (I also met my best friend – so providence was two fold, but that’s a different story for another time!) Adding to this – John’s aunt and I didn’t work in the same department of this store. We spoke infrequently, but just enough for me to pour my heart out to her and she to me. Very few people heard what she heard.

Coincidence? I think not.

She heard all about my most recent failed (REALLY failed) relationship and how I needed someone who wanted me for me. She told me about her nephew John who was in a relationship that was okay, but not his (or her) ideal. He put up with things he shouldn’t have and finally realized it wasn’t working out. He became unhappy with the relationship. (Later, he told me that he probably would have married her, but something just didn’t “connect.”)

When we met we just hit it off right away. Like we’d been friends for years.

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Our first dance together. We are so in love in this pic. And still today.

Then, after we had fallen in love (which was about two weeks), we both tried to find jobs in each other’s cities.

He found his first. He sold his townhome right before the market collapse (coincidence? I think not) and moved here. We bought a house, remodeled it, he bought me a NICE ring set, and paid for most of the wedding with the sale of his townhome. (Later, we sold my home to pay for some upgrades to our new home.)

Coincidence? I think not.

After I met John I went back through some journals and found a note I had written: “I want a man who treats me as his equal, someone smart and funny, and someone who will love me for me.” John was all those things and more and I couldn’t believe how accurate he fit the description.

John said when he came to see me (as a couple) for the first time, he felt in his heart I was the one he was going to marry. He knew from DAY ONE.

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One of my favorite photos. I love kissing him.

I could point out dozens of things that tell me this was all God’s providence. It was because of God that we met. Because of Him that we’re where we are today (almost 10 years in). Because of Him I’ve found not only a great husband, but also a wonderful friend in this man.

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How cute is this guy?

So when people ask me next time, “How did you meet?” I’m going to say “GOD.”

Because truly I cannot see how something so blessed and so completely beyond wonderful could be from anywhere else.

Happy Valentine’s Day and God Bless. May you find God’s providence for you today and may you remember again why you fell in love with your significant other.

E is for Encouragement and Endurance

Life and Happiness

Last night I was watching Shahs of Sunset (don’t judge! See my previous post!) Reza (who is a gay male) had just called off his wedding, but took his friends on his wedding trip to Thailand anyway. Throughout the trip he thought about his fiance as he experienced the things they had intended to experience together. He endured this trip because it was paid for, but when it came to the wedding dinner, with menus adorned with both their names, he finally broke. His friends surrounded him and encouraged him to move on.

This touched my heart because I had been in a similar situation with my previous relationship. Like Reza, I had friends who encouraged me throughout the entire endurance race that was the next five years of my life (until I met John). My friend Susan, who is a horse lover, pointed out the difference in a regular trail ride with a horse and an endurance ride. A trail ride is a leisurely stroll on your horse over any kind of terrain. You can take your time and enjoy the nature surrounding you. But an endurance ride is a race over fallen trees, streams, creeks and other obstacles. You do not leisurely canter through this race – you run through it to get to the end in the fastest time. You don’t really notice your surroundings – you’re just trying to finish. At the end, both you and the horse are exhausted.

Endurance is not just the ability to

For me, I wanted desperately to get through those few years following this disheartening relationship that I just ENDURED. I raced through my life and didn’t enjoy much of it. I put my head down and ran. (Reza was going the same thing last night in Thailand…he just kept going through the emotions…another good “E” word.) But, along the way, I had some great friends encouraging me to keep going and persevere. They knew when I finally had run my race – I could truly enjoy my life.

Last night, after the show was over and I was finished crying (no matter how much time passes, the hurt remains), I wanted to find some of that encouragement. I wanted to remind myself that the endurance race was over. So I pulled out my scrapbook and looked at wedding photos of me and John. I found our invitation and our church program…and even two notes from friends. At the time (my bridal shower) they were used as encouragement for our nuptials, but even now they serve as encouragement to keep going forward.

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From my friend Roberta – a little hard to read here, but it’s lovely.

 

I saw items from our honeymoon and even items from the new people in my life – reminders that we are meant to be together and that the past doesn’t matter.

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A note I received from my pastor just moments before walking down the aisle.

 

I won’t say that there aren’t still times of endurance, but for the most part, those days are over. And I take this advice from my pastor – I take a deep, cleansing breath before moving forward. I no longer endure – I thrive. (Perhaps that will be my “T” word?) And by that – I am encouraged.

What about you? Are you in the season of endurance or are you in a season of thriving?

 

Wisdom from the Word Wednesday – Sin

Life and Happiness, Religion, Wisdom From The Word Wednesday

DISCLAIMER: I want all my readers to know that this was a post I struggled greatly with writing. It was not easy to write and much of it seems to be just a jumble of thoughts to me. But I wanted to get it out and perhaps it would start a discussion. I don’t intend to cause consternation – only discussion.

This past weekend in Sunday school, we discussed sin.  In 1 John 3:4 it says, “Everyone who sins breaks the law; in fact, sin is lawlessness.” Our study guide question asked us how this attitude differed from the attitude of today. Several of us pointed out that the word “sin” today is somewhat of a sin in of itself. Many people make excuses for sin, proclaiming that this person or that thing made them do what they did, therefore negating their “sin.” And if anyone tries to point out someone else’s sin, they are deemed “judgmental.”

However, as Christians we need to discuss the sins of the world in order to keep our own sins from rearing their ugly heads. I agree that judgement is set aside only for God, BUT in Matthew 18: 15 it says, “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.” BUT, here is the issue: With the Duggars, with gay people, with Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner… they have not sinned against us personally. We, as Christians, can certainly discuss the ramifications of these issues, but to JUDGE the people is not biblical.

On yet another hand, I do believe that as Christians we must be aware of what is happening in the world and be willing to see it for what it is: sin. This keeps us from opening ourselves up to the sin itself – to be dragged down into the abyss that is this sinful world.

The Bible points out that Jesus said to His disciples, “I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and innocent as doves.” We need to be discerning about everything that is put out into the world – both from our own lips and the lips of others. When someone says to us, “But you are being judgmental!” We should first search our own thoughts to see if we, indeed, are being judgmental. If not, how can we continue the conversation in a loving, non-judgmental way?

What would happen if we saw abuse and said nothing because it would be deemed by some as “judgmental” of the abuser? The abuse would continue. Now, with the gay community and the transgender community, I guess it isn’t as important – that’s why I try to stay out of the discussion, but we’re still called as Christians to point out God’s word.

In Romans 10: 14-15 it says, “How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them? And how can they preach unless they are sent?” Guess what? If you’re Christian – you’re sent. That means we’re called to share the Gospel with others. Because how can the world hear and believe if they are not told? And we are called to preach it to others. In a non-judgmental way (Remember – Judgment is God’s job.)

FOUR STEPS TO AVOID CASTING JUDGMENT ON OTHERS

  1. Seek out the Truth – The very first thing you should do is read and study God’s word and what it says about judgement and sin. See verses like Matt. 7:1-5 and Luke 6:37
  2. Discern the difference – When you have read the Bible and can understand His words, then you can discern how you can “love one another” but not the world. See 1 John 2: 15
  3. Search your own heart – When Jesus says, “Judge not…” what does that mean? It seems simple and yet we judge people every day. Why? Shouldn’t we focus on our own sins before those of others? See Matthew 7:3
  4. Share the love – God did not call us to love the world, but to love one another. 1 John 2:15 – “Do not love the world nor the things in the world (sin). If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” BUT John 13:34 – “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.”

Mini Post Monday

Life and Happiness, Writing

Last Thursday morning I got up as I do every day before and set about my work day from home. Sometimes it gets a bit tedious and I’ve found myself straying a bit from God, my morning devotionals and also from taking care of myself. So before I dug into my work, I decided to take a walk with my pup. Many times I get too busy and don’t get proper exercise in my day so I wanted to be sure I accomplished it this time. I dug out my headphones, pulled up the music on my phone and set out. I have a set playlist that I really love on my phone (Pitbull, Iggy Azalea, One Republic, JLo, Jessie J… tunes to get you moving), but that morning I thought, “No, I’m going to try out some of my old tunes.” Boy was I happy I did! I listened to ABBA, Garth Brooks (I’m kind of on a kick since we saw him last weekend in concert!), Michael Buble, and even Selah (who sang our wedding song: Blessed the Broken Road). My step had some pep baby! Max and I ended up walking almost an hour around town and I felt energized, awake and inspired. I had two blog ideas come to me (for my A to Z Challenge – if you want to join in check it out!) and even encouraged to work more on my short fiction novel (which I hope to publish within the next month or so!)

Sometimes it’s good to break out of your comfort zones, get out into nature, and loosen up a bit.

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This past weekend was one of my favorites. It was my 6th Wedding Anniversary (which included dinner out at a new restaurant- pay attention – I might do a review!) and Mother’s Day. I got a small cake from a local bakery that was a replica of our wedding cake – lemon cake with raspberry preserve filling – and we celebrated our marriage by just trying to spend some time with one another. I got to spend my time with loved ones just enjoying love and each other. We also spent some time with friends by a nice outdoor fire, chatted about the ups and downs of our lives, sipped a few tasty drinks and relaxed under the warm May evening. It doesn’t get better than that.

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One last thing: If you’re a writer and are looking for an awesome conference to attend, meet some nice people, and hone your skills across the board – check out the St. Davids Christian Writers’ Conference in Grove City, PA (near Pittsburgh – very close to Ohio!) This conference really has something for everyone – fiction, children’s writers, non-fiction, how to get contracts, how to self-publish and includes terrific fellowship and time with real authors, editors and publishers to share ideas and get your foot in the door. You won’t regret signing up for this all-inclusive conference! Hope to see you there!

Check back this Wednesday for my 2nd guest blogger! You’re going to love her!

Have a great Monday!

You can also find me on Twitter @suefair48 and don’t forget to check out my Facebook page (I have two actually – here’s the other one!)

A – is for Anniversary

Life and Happiness, Writing

Today is the first day of Sue’s Revised A to Z Challenge! I got a few of my friends signed up and I can’t wait to read their posts. If you are interested – the “rules” are simple (it’s really just about getting motivated to blog so just do that!) check out my original post here and let me know if you’ve accepted the challenge in the comments below so I can read your stuff!

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A is for Anniversary. I started the A to Z Challenge and had a bunch of idea pop into my head for the letter A, but then I realized something: I was starting on May 8th and my wedding anniversary is May 9th! It was a perfect fit! (I hope all the other letters fall into place like this one did.)

My husband and I will be married 6 years tomorrow. We met about 8 years ago and had a long-distance relationship for a few years before he moved to my town and we got married. (But not before making me wait for almost a year before proposing!) The first 6 years have had their ups and downs. We learned many things about one another and we’ve grown as a couple. For the most part, John has been my rock during those 6 years. My last relationship had left me very damaged and it’s taken our entire relationship so far for me to overcome some of the mentally abusive things I was subject to. John has stood by me through it all. And by “it all” I mean – irrational behavior, threats to leave (before he could do so to me), and my inability to trust. I also placed blame on him for things my ex had done. It wasn’t fair. It wasn’t easy. And it wasn’t fun. But John is determined to stick it out. We both take our wedding vows (you know – for better or worse?) very seriously.

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With all that said, we do have a good time together and we often say we’re each other’s best friends. Our communication is easy and constant – a true sign, in my opinion, of a solid relationship. I’ve overcome many of my issues and can honestly say I’m a stronger, more confident person thanks, in part, to John. (God had a lot to do with it too!)

John recently decided to go back to school and obtain his doctorate. He’s in the early stages and things are not yet set in stone, but he’s been having some doubts about it along the way. He worries that our relationship will suffer due to all the work it will entail. I must admit, I’m a bit worried too. I like to be pampered. I like his undivided attention and I like planning getaways and time with each other. A lot of that will NOT happen while he’s in school. It’ll be about 5-7 years of hard work, stress, late nights, and hard work. (Oh, did I already say that?)

But here’s the thing: Now it’s his turn. The first six years of our marriage John held me up. He helped me work through my fears, held me when I cried, pushed me to consider new options and he encouraged me to quit my job and follow my dreams. Now I want to do the same for him. I know being on that side of the coin isn’t really all that fun. It’s kind of like being the designated driver. You know you need to do it – it’s your turn – but it really sucks to watch your friends just let loose while you need to always be the adult. (Don’t get me wrong – he had his moments too, but it’s been mostly one sided up to this point.)

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Me leaning on him… now it’s his turn.

 

Guess what? It’s my turn to be the adult. It’s my turn to be the encourager, the supporter, the cleaner of the house (this is the one I really hate) and to help him to flourish and succeed.

I wouldn’t want it any other way really. I’m ready for it. John (and God) has prepared me.

So, on this our 6th Wedding Anniversary, I want to say,

“I love you John. You can do this. I’m right here holding out my arms when you need me. The next few years are going to be awesome.”

Spreading the Love!

Life and Happiness, Social Media, Writing

I recently read a great blog from Deb’s World that included a challenge about spreading some love. I liked it so much, I decided to participate myself (even though I haven’t been officially nominated).

Here are the rules of the event:

  1. Write 10 four-word sentences about what love means to you.
  2. Share your favorite quote on love.
  3. Nominate 10 other bloggers to join in.

So here are my responses:

My 10 four-word sentences:

  1. Love is mutual respect
  2. A kind, loving word
  3. A beautifully written book
  4. A sunshine filled day
  5. Pooch on my lap
  6. Husband’s hand in mine
  7. A child’s toothless grin
  8. Always saying I’m sorry (addendum: when you are and you need to apologize!)
  9. Reading an encouraging comment
  10. Creating lists like this!

My favorite quote on love… that one is harder. I have recently put up this Simply Said quote on my wall and I look at it frequently so I guess it’s my favorite right now: The best thing about LOVE is that we’re in it together.

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Love is…

Nominate 10 other bloggers… not sure I know 10… here goes:

  1. Susan Lower – Dairy Dame
  2. Brenda Hendricks – Encouragement for Today’s Christian
  3. Roberta Brosius – Wit, Words & the Word
  4. Kathie Mitchell – Country Grandmother
  5. Suzie – Suzie81 Speaks
  6. Holly Yoder – Breaking Average (A good way to get your first post up!)
  7. Michelle S. Lazurek – The Writer’s Tapestry
  8. Beth Brubaker – Footprints in the mud
  9. Heather Truckenmiller – Fields of Heather
  10. I couldn’t come up with a tenth person… any suggestions?

Now it’s your turn. Even if I didn’t nominate you, feel free to share the love on your blog! Ping me back if you post something – I look forward to reading your posts!

Off to spread more love!

 

 

Valentine’s Day Reflections

Life and Happiness

Over the past 8+ years I’ve been asked a number of times how John and I met. I even wrote a story about it for Chicken Soup for the Soul. I always love to retell the story because it’s such a completely unbelievable one really:

We lived in two different states.

We were from two different worlds.

Our meeting was completely “chance”

He never envisioned living where I live – which is his father’s home town.

And I tell this tale often, with various details and with a smile on my face. Because I know the real reason how we met.

But, you see, my answer to “How did you two meet?” shouldn’t be this long drawn out detail of the timeline of events, but the answer should be:

GOD.

You see, I don’t believe in coincidence.

I had a part-time job at a library and I started to get discontented with it. No reasons really. But when I quit I realized I still needed a second job, so I got one at a local retail place. That’s where I met John’s aunt. (I also met my best friend – so providence was two fold, but that’s a different story for another time!) Adding to this – she and I didn’t work in the same department of this store. We spoke infrequently, but just enough for me to pour my heart out to her and she to me. Very few people heard what she heard. My mother wasn’t privy to the pain I spoke with her about.

Coincidence? I think not.

John was in a relationship that was okay, but not his ideal. He put up with things he shouldn’t have and finally realized it wasn’t working out. He became discontented. He has told me he probably would have married her, but something just didn’t “connect.”

When we met we just hit it off right away. Like we’d been friends for years.

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Our first dance together. We are so in love in this pic. And still today.

 

Then, after we had fallen in love, we both tried to find jobs in each other’s cities.

He found his first. He sold his town-home right before the market collapse (coincidence? I think not) and moved here. We bought a house, remodeled it, he bought me a NICE ring set, and paid for most of the wedding with the sale of his town-home.

Coincidence? I think not.

 

After I met John I went back through some journals and found a note I had written: “I want a man who treats me as his equal, someone smart and funny, and someone who will love me for me.” John was all those things and more and I couldn’t believe how accurate he fit the description.

John said when he came to see me (as a couple) for the first time he felt in his heart I was the one he was going to marry. He knew from DAY ONE.

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One of my favorite photos. I love kissing him.

 

 

I could point out dozens of things that tell me this was all God’s providence. It was because of Him that we met. Because of Him that we’re where we are today. Because of Him that I’ve found not only a great husband, but also a wonderful friend in this man.

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How cute is this guy?

So when people ask me next time, “How did you meet?” I’m going to say “GOD.”

Because truly I cannot see how something so blessed and so completely beyond wonderful could be from anywhere else.

Happy Valentine’s Day and God Bless. May you find God’s providence for you today and may you remember again why you fell in love with your significant other.